It’s amazing how meeting the right people can change your whole perspective on life. In only a moment.
Meeting this gorgeous family online before our trip has been one of the best things to happen to us.
Not only are they awesomely cool and relaxed and showing us how to do it all with humour and less stress, but they have also opened our eyes to healthier eating and lifestyle habits, as well as our perspective on the way we raise our children and the unique quirky challenges we’ve ourselves embraced over the last few years.
Before we left home, the pile up of things had started to create a thunderous cloud. But now having met them, it’s been blown clean away.
Our island time together on Lembongan couldn’t have been any better.
We left Ubud and it’s hot, humid busy-ness, and headed for the beach.
Sanur is everything that we thought we weren’t looking for. A tourist spot full of easy access places and lots of families – but in fact it’s just what we needed with two smalls who don’t sit still!
We found an amazing little apartment in a complex with a private pool, and a 5 minute walk to the most beautiful beach and little strip of cafes.
We fell into an easy rhythm of walks to swim in the sea, fresh young coconuts, morning naps, dips in the pool where Erin has learnt to swim, quiet time, school time, work time.
Trying to find our family rhythm and learning all the extra lessons that come alongside testing our edges, and ideals, combating our boredom at back to the mundane daily, trying to find something that works for all of us to be together, doing the things we need to do when it’s no longer a holiday. We are trying to find our personal boundaries, or work boundaries. Finding out how we want this life to look when we return home, connecting some more dots and creating a unique way.
All the small things. The extraordinary in the ordinary day.
Oh this is one wild and bumpy ride. Exotic and beautiful, strained and uncomfortable. Total freedom, joy, fear….all of it. Daily.
We are resisting the tide to fall back into a daily rhythm of doing and going, and becoming obligated and tied. It’s really hard. We seek connection yet at the same time, the biggest reason we came away was to find a rhythm that worked for each one of us individually, so that we could work together as a family to have a fully joy-full rounded life.
At the moment we are still trying to hit our stride, find the pace. It’s all good. We’re learning and growing and changing and re-learning and re-writing. It’s a dance.
One that we are realising still that there are no magic answers to. Nothing has changed, yet everything has. It’s so good to spend each day together. Along side that its becoming obvious where there is need and where changes need to start to happen.
Sometimes its uncomfortable. Boring. Exhausting. This daily dance. Even in beautiful Bali. It’s not a holiday, it’s a life change for us. To try and get things in place to get it right and make each day one worth getting out of bed for. Re-committing, re-learning, finding a story that works for us all. And most importantly that works for me and the husband together so that we can give these babies a solid frame on which to build their own selves.
We’ve got some great inspiration here through a few couples with children we have met. Families who seem a little further down the trail than us and its giving us so much food for thought.
We had a great last few days in Ubud playing the tourist as you’ll see in the photos below. A beautiful world full of the kindest smiles and hands to help.
Here are the highlights of those last few days…
A week or so in now and goodness the difference is incredible! We are all slowly on the mend, and although our nights are still a bit of a disaster with swollen coughs and middle of the night wake up parties, it’s all starting to sink in to place.
Erin just LOVES it all. She says she could live here. Despite being ill. I am so incredibly amazed as it’s the opposite reaction to what we were expecting.
I hope to find a rhythm of sleep and naps and days soon, but I know that it will come on its own.
I’ve come to realise that what others have said before to me is very true. Life is still intense and full on no matter where you are. Even here where life is slow and the days are long. My children still need and want the same level of interaction. There is still not much let up to the daily tasks of cleaning and cooking and tending. It’s really hit me that this really is a season. And no change in environment is going to change that season much.
Both of them are doing an amazing job of learning to be more on their own. Its what we really wanted and although boredom is settling in at points, its just what they need to start using their imagination more. Here because places and toys are just not available, it means there is no other choice and it’s up to us to be more creative.
So far we’ve made up numerous new games with just the leaves and the flowers. Played ball games and coloured and read and just been silly together. It’s been wonderful to embrace it and fall into it. Hard work. Ups and downs still but worth it for the changes that are happening.